by Randy Hain | February 24, 2025 1:00 am
Do you ever feel overwhelmed with all of the stress, responsibilities and challenges in your daily life? If I am honest with myself, the times I feel most anxious or stressed are usually caused by my lifelong tendency to overcomplicate things and an inclination towards “busyness”. I am grateful for the occasional insights I have into ways to address this problem and as I grow older, I recognize the wisdom of something my father often shared with me in my younger days: simplify your life.
Everything about our modern culture involves complexity and unnecessary layers. I long for more opportunities to live in the moment and experience life in “real time” versus the frantic pace I often keep. I want my legacy to be more than “he accomplished more than most”! I don’t pretend to have all the answers, but I would like to share the three-step approach I am working on to achieve greater simplicity, peace and a heightened sense of purpose in my life:
Ever since I experienced a profound conversion to Christ in the fall of 2005 and joined the Catholic Church, I have gone from a compartmentalized approach to life unsuccessfully attempting to balance work and family to a life where Christ is first, family is second and work is third on my list of priorities. Additionally, I work hard at keeping Christ at the center of everything I do and the result is a more authentic and integrated approach to life where I am the same person at all times.
How does this play out in my life?
Christ—He requires all of me and in return, He gives me everything I need. Through my active prayer life, worship at Mass and participating in the Sacramental life of the Church He founded, I serve Christ and make sure He is my top priority. “Lord, help me to simplify my life by learning what you want me to be and becoming that person.” (St. Therese of Lisieux)
Family—My vocation as a parent/husband is to help my family get to Heaven. I owe them my time and love and I have a responsibility to pass the Faith on to them. In our home, family dinner is a priority as is the commitment my wife and I share in loving our children enough to challenge them with the truth. We work hard to ensure our children grow up to value the Sacrament of Marriage by modeling a great marriage at home.
Work—I focus on sanctifying my work and pursuing excellence. I must remember that my vocation is not my job/career. My job exists to serve my family…not the other way around. My job provides a living for my family and a way to fulfill my mission, but it cannot be allowed to consume me in an unhealthy way.
Having our priorities straight requires intentionality and commitment. We must plan our time, have lines we won’t cross and stick to our principles. Most importantly, we must recognize that we are made for Heaven and not this world. We will be judged one day by how we lived, not how fast we lived. “We must always remind ourselves that we are pilgrims until we arrive at our heavenly homeland, and we must not let our affections delay us in the roadside inns and lands through which we pass, otherwise we will forget our destination and lose interest in our final goal.” (St. Ignatius of Loyola)
How do we detach? Does this mean we need to become hermits in a mountainside cabin? Of course not. But, we need to acknowledge that we live in a materialistic and consumer driven world encouraging us to acquire as much stuff as possible, often at the expense of what is truly important. If we can practice real freedom from the blind pursuit of an illusory better life attached to acquiring more material goods we don’t need and other negative influences of this world, we will be better prepared to make healthier and more meaningful choices in life. Also, remember that attaching ourselves to the right people and activities will further help us detach from negative influences.
Ideas for pursuing detachment:
I am challenged on a daily basis by the concept of detachment. It is very difficult to practice, yet when I do make progress in this area I feel a profound sense of freedom and peace that encourages me to work harder at it every day. The world is constantly trying to pull me away from my relationship with Christ. When I practice detachment from our culture and its negative influences I more clearly recognize and value the blessings I have received from our Lord. “You cannot please both God and the world at the same time. They are utterly opposed to each other in their thoughts, their desires, and their actions.” St. John Vianney
A few months ago I was meeting with one of my executive coaching clients when we were about two weeks into our working relationship. She walked into the room, obviously very excited to share something with me. She placed a two-page document on the table between us and declared: “I want to discuss mission statements today!” Obviously these pages represented hers. She then asked me to share my own mission statement before we discussed hers and my client took out her notebook to write down what she assumed would be a lengthy description of my own mission statement.
“It is only two words, so there is no need to take notes.” I said, much to her bewilderment.
“How can that be? I want to hear your mission statement and there is no way it is only two words!”
I smiled at her and said: “If you will let me finish, I will tell you. My mission statement is simple: serve others.”
Now she was totally flabbergasted! “I just don’t see how that can be your mission statement. Mine is almost two pages!”
“Well, when I was in my 20s, I probably had something that looked like yours. But, as I have grown older, I have embraced simplicity and come to realize that I get everything I need in this life by putting others before myself. By serving the needs of others I make a living and support my family through my coaching, consulting, books and speaking. I am part of a worthwhile mission by helping others achieve their full potential. Most importantly, I serve Christ by serving others. My company is called Serviam Partners and Serviam is Latin for ‘I Will Serve’. I love what I do and feel very fortunate to be so aligned with my mission.”
She was speechless as she took all of this in. We never did review her two-page mission statement, but the next time we met she brought a one-paragraph version instead of the two-page version. This is progress and eventually we will whittle it down to a few words!
I shared this story because knowing who you are and what you are called to do is a critical component of simplifying your life. When I was in my 20s and 30s, I was focused on climbing the corporate ladder as fast as possible with little understanding of what I would do when I reached the top. As I shared in my third book, Something More: The Professionals Pursuit of a Meaningful Life[1], I walked away from a senior executive role with a billion dollar restaurant company in my early 30’s to run a boutique national search firm and in 2013 I launched Serviam Partners[2] which offers executive coaching and management consulting services to companies and senior leaders. These career moves were all intentional and part of my ever-increasing desire to simplify my life and fully tap into my skills and passions in the service of others.
Probably the greatest revelation for me over the years has been the sense of peace and joy I feel which only comes from helping other people. Even though I always seek to know and do God’s will in my life, the time I most frequently feel close to achieving this is when I do something in the service of others.
How do I serve other people?
My giving to others is ultimately a gift right back to me. When I devote myself to helping a person in need, I feel a tremendous sense of fulfillment. I also know in these precious moments that I am serving Christ and living in His will. My hectic schedule can sometimes get in the way and I struggle to do all that I want for others, but I keep trying.
Do you ever reflect back on your career? Retrace your steps and reflect on lessons learned? At the beginning of my career I was a follower, then I became a manager and then a leader. Now, I embrace the “influencer” stage of my career. I work through my books, talks, coaching and consulting to influence positive outcomes for the people I encounter in my life. I make mistakes, but I am clear about my goals and my desire to follow a simpler path, serve others and follow Christ. The path to get here had many twists and turns, but I was very intentional along the way.
I encourage you to change the direction of your life and recognize that the time for embracing a simpler approach to life is now and not when we reach retirement. I have watched with gratitude the example my parents set for me over the years of how to live simply, act with humility and serve others with love and charity. My encouragement to you is, simply put, to embrace simplicity. This is a difficult struggle and counter-cultural, but get rid of the excess and retain the necessary. Focus on what is important and have the right priorities. Serve others during this Lenten season. Be faithful to the Magisterium and live an authentic Catholic life. Place Christ first in all things.
Simplify your life.
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