by Father Nnamdi Moneme | February 20, 2025 1:00 am
“We are not just meant to share in the life of Jesus Christ and His saving mission. We are also to share in His own happiness, His own blessed attitudes now, and in His perfect happiness of heaven.”
A few years ago, I was in a jam-packed bus in the scorching noontime Manila heat. The man sitting on my right complained endlessly about the stifling heat while the woman on my left had her eyes closed as she silently prayed the rosary beads in her hands. Talk about two completely different attitudes to the simmering heat and congestion! One person chose to complain endlessly into my ears as if I needed to be reminded of the heat while the other person decided to be in silent communion with God at the same moment.
Above all things, our attitudes in life determine our happiness. Our conditions or experiences alone do not guarantee our happiness. Some persons can have the most beautiful experiences in life and still not be happy while others can maintain their happiness even in the direst of circumstances. It all depends on our habitual ways of thinking, acting, and reacting.
It is very interesting to note that Jesus addressed the Beatitudes to His disciples in the sixth chapter of Luke’s Gospel and not to all who were following Him, “And raising His eyes towards His disciples He said, “Blessed are you who are poor, for the kingdom of God is yours.” He seems to be reminding them that following Him was not enough. They also had to share in His own attitudes if they were going to share in His happiness.
The Beatitudes are rightly called supernatural blessed attitudes because they are the attitudes that Jesus embraced in His earthly life that brought Him to true happiness. In addition, Jesus alone communicates these beatitudes to us through His Spirit. Jesus calls us to accept the privations we cannot remedy because He freely chose poverty for our salvation, “Though He was rich, yet for our sake He became poor that by His poverty we might become rich.” (2Cor 8:9)
He calls us to bear hunger now because He chose to be hungry in the desert for our sake, “He fasted for forty days and forty nights, and after that He was hungry.” (Mt 4:2)
He calls us to weep now for our sins and those who remain obstinate in their sins because He wept for us in His journey to Jerusalem, “He wept over the city, saying, ‘Would that even today you knew the things that would make for peace.’”(Lk 19:42)
Jesus calls us to embrace our own insults and rejection because He is the Holy One who was “reckoned with the transgressors.” (Lk 22:36)
As Jesus’ disciples today, we also must cultivate the attitudes of Jesus if we are going to share in His happiness. His attitudes are the only ones that are divinely guaranteed to bring us true happiness in this life and in the next. The more that we share in these Christlike attitudes and cultivate them, the more that we can maintain our happiness in all conditions and experiences of our lives.
There are three ways that we can begin to possess and grow in these beatitudes of Jesus.
First, we must have a trusting and constant friendship with Jesus Christ.
My late dad often told me, “Show me your friend, and I will tell you the type of person that you are.” He was trying to teach me that I would inevitably imbibe the attitudes of the persons whom I considered my closest friends. Nothing communicates attitude like friendships.
Jesus declared us His friends because He communicates to us all that He has from His Father, “I have called you friends because I have revealed to you all that I have heard from my Father.” (Jn 15:15)
Our friendship with Him has nothing to do with our worthiness or ability but we must allow our relationship with Him to impact our attitudes in this life.
So, how trusting are we in our friendship with Him? Do we trust Him enough to be with us in all circumstances and conditions of our lives? Do we trust Him to constantly train us in His attitude, mold us into His own likeness, and forgive us when we fail? Do we trust in the power of His grace to bring us to act like Him? Do we trust Him enough to reward us for the slightest good attitude that we cultivate out of love for Him?
How constant is our friendship with Him? Are we friends with Him in the favorable and unfavorable events and experiences of our lives? Are we holding on to His friendship when all seems lost and useless? Are we still friends with Him when we fall short of His standard of behavior and attitude? He cannot communicate and train us in His attitudes if we are not constant and trusting in His loving friendship.
Secondly, we must renounce and reject our bad attitudes.
If our friendship with Jesus is authentic, it should also bring us to face our attitudes that are contrary to His own attitudes. Authentic friendships serve to make the friends similar. We will either abandon our friendship with Jesus or labor to imbibe His attitude. We will not find peace in our friendship with Him while holding on to attitudes that do not align with His own.
We can face our bad attitudes in life and bring them to Him in confident prayer. We must not pretend they our bad attitudes are no big deal. It is foolish for us to justify our bad attitudes by saying, “I was born like this,” or “This is how I was raised.” Jesus will slowly communicate His attitudes to us if we humbly offer our bad attitudes to Him and beg Him to infuse and train us in His attitudes.
Thirdly, we must think about eternity in all our choices and attitudes.
The beatitudes are dispositions of the present moment that seek a future result that is hoped for. Jesus possessed these beatitudes because He did not live for the present moment alone, “For the sake of the joy that was set before Him He endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God.” (Heb 12:2)
Blessed attitudes are possible when we are focused on eternity while engaged in the present moment.
We too must not live for the present moment alone, seeking only to resolve present problems or gain temporal gains without thinking about eternity. This is why St. Paul warned us, “If for this life only we have hoped in Christ, we are the most pitiable people of all.” (1Cor 15:19)
This means that we have no hope of sharing in Christ’s happiness if we are only focused on the gains of the present moment.
My dear brothers and sisters in Christ, our God is a communion of perfect happiness who longs to communicate this happiness to us through His Son, Jesus Christ. God desires our happiness more than we actually do. This is why He made us and redeemed us by the blood of His Son. We are not just meant to share in the life of Jesus Christ and His saving mission. We are also to share in His own happiness, His own blessed attitudes now, and in His perfect happiness of heaven.
No matter what our attitudes in the past have been, this is a good time to start begging for, receiving, and cultivating the supernatural blessed attitudes – the attitudes of Jesus – so that we can be truly happy in this life and in the life to come.
Glory to Jesus!!! Honor to Mary!!!
Malachi 3:1-4 | Psalms 24:7, 8, 9, 10 | Hebrews 2:14-18 | Luke 2:22-40 or 2:22-32[1]
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About the author:
Fr. Nnamdi Moneme, OMV, is a Roman Catholic priest and religious of the Oblates of the Virgin Mary currently serving in the Philippines. He teaches theology and is a seminary formator for candidates to the priesthood and religious life. Father also gives Ignatian retreats and serves as spiritual director to many of the lay, religious, and clergy in the area.
He earned his first degree in Physics from the University of Nigeria, Nsukka, Nigeria. Ordained in 2009, he studied at St. John’s seminary, in Brighton, Massachusetts. Father has an STL/MA in Moral Theology from the University of Santo Tomas in Manila, Philippines.
Father Moneme blogs at https://toquenchhisthirst.wordpress.com/[4].
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